After You Ask.
You asked for an accommodation or medical leave. Now the room feels different.
A free 10-page kit for the weeks right after you ask, while you still have room to move. What to write down, what to watch for, and what to say next.
- What to write down in the first 48 hours
- Six signals the room changed
- Exact words for the next email
- A one-page timeline to print
Built from 30+ years inside Executive HR. Written by a disabled veteran who was the CHRO.
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They don't have to.
Your emails start getting picked apart. A meeting you used to run goes on without you. Someone mentions "coverage" in a way that lands on you. None of it breaks a policy on its own. That's the point. It's built to be easy to explain away.
Scrutiny goes up
Emails get corrected, copied to HR, or answered in writing only.
The review shifts
Strong ratings turn vague. "Reliability." "Availability." "Commitment."
The request stalls
"Still reviewing." No timeline. New forms you've never heard of.
Work moves away
Projects, clients or travel quietly reassigned "to help you."
Your schedule becomes the topic
Coverage, the team "stepping up," fairness to everyone else.
A meeting with no agenda
Short notice. Your manager and HR both on the invite.
One of these can have an ordinary explanation. Two or three after your request is a pattern. The kit shows you how to write each one down so it holds up later.
Four moves. Ten pages.
Write it down
The first 48 hours, and where to keep it.
Read the room
Six signals it changed after you asked.
Watch your words
What to say in the next email and meeting.
Keep one page
A timeline you fill in and bring with you.
- The follow-up email that puts a verbal request in writing, with what to put in and what to leave out
- What's happening on HR's side that you don't see
- Five questions to ask in the accommodation meeting
- The two-line recap to send the same day
- Exact words for a stalled request, changed feedback, moved work and a meeting with no agenda
- A printable one-page timeline with a sample row
"I've sat on the side of the table that reviews these requests. This is what I'd want you to know before your next move."Noël Tarquinii, Founder, HR Armor · Former CHRO · Disabled veteran
30+ years in Executive HR across Asia, Europe and the U.S.
Before you download
Is this legal advice?
No. HR Armor is strategy and education. The kit shows you how the process works from the HR side and how to keep your own record. For legal advice about your situation, talk to an employment attorney.
Do I have to tell you about my condition?
No. The kit never asks, and neither do I. You'll actually see why your diagnosis usually stays out of emails to your manager.
I haven't asked yet. Is this still for me?
Yes. Read Step 1 before you ask. The date and the wording of the request matter more than almost anything that comes after.
Something already happened. A PIP, a write-up, a meeting. Now what?
Get the kit, then reply to the email it comes in and tell me the date you asked and what changed after. If there's a meeting or deadline this week, say that first.
Why a personal email?
Same reason the kit tells you to keep your notes off company systems. Your record should live somewhere only you control.
Most people wait until it's obvious.
By then the file is already written. Start yours now.
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